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Be The Self Made Man

Be The Self Made Man

Parents usually want their children to be self-confident – after all, self-confidence is a key component of success in life. But how do you teach this important life skill? Here are some tips.

Meet Needs

Experts note that babies and later children who have their needs met consistently – needs for food, comfort, a listening ear, etc. – are learning the message that they are worth paying attention to; they learn they have worth. Some professionals believe this is best accomplished through the practice of attachment parenting. Others simply note that prompt and consistent meeting of needs will send a positive message to children.

Play with Your Child

Play is how your child learns about and interacts with his or her world. When you participate, you validate this playful approach. You are sharing your child’s world and helping him or her to see that Mom and/or Dad like the same things they do.

Parents can get pushy about teaching their children the value of hard work or the completion of tasks. While these things are certainly important, the time in a person’s life when they are young, playful children is quite short. So embrace this time and play with your child, and work in on the task-oriented training in addition to play time. Honestly, it can be therapeutic for parents to play with their kids!

Put on a Happy Face

Okay, not everyone is happy all the time, and parents get stressed. This is understandable, and there’s no need to invent a perpetually-cheerful persona; it’s not realistic. But if your children receive the constant message that they are the source of your stress, they may begin to take on that identity. They will see themselves as an annoyance, and this may undermine their self-confidence.

Watch What You Say

In a similar vein to the paragraph above, be careful about complaining about your children in their hearing. Yes, parenting is hard, and children can try your patience. But if you need to vent to your friends about the things your child does that drive you crazy, do it at a time when your child is not present or after he or she has fallen asleep.

Don’t Withhold Yourself

If your child fails at something – and he or she will at some point – it’s important not to withdraw or withhold love and attention. This sends the message that your child’s achievements are more important that the child him/herself. Instead, make sure your child knows you love him or her no matter what failures happen.

Of course, this does not mean you as a parent need to accept constant failure or not encourage your child to do better. The important thing is for your child not to think your love is conditional. Privileges can be conditional; parental love shouldn’t be.

Raising a Self-Disciplined Child: Help Your Child Become More Responsible, Confident, and Resilient
by: Dr. Robert Brooks
publisher: McGraw-Hill, published: 2009-07-30
ASIN: 0071627111
EAN: 9780071627115
sales rank: 106843
price: $6.11 (new), $2.64 (used)

Learn to raise a self-disciplined child who is confident, independent . . . and happy.

Raising a Self-Disciplined Child is the groundbreaking book parents have been waiting for–a remarkably positive approach to a style of discipline that builds children up-from the acclaimed authors of Raising Resilient Children. Filled with realistic, practical strategies and sample scenarios, it shows you ways to teach children of any age, from preschool to adolescence, the value of self-control, self-reliance, and self-assurance–the all-important skills that will last a lifetime.

Praise for Raising Resilient Children
“Practical and clear in its suggestions, direct and supportive in its tone, Raising Resilient Children is the perfect book for parents searching for a caring method to help their children grow into healthy, loving, and mature adults.”

–William Pollack, Ph.D., author of Real Boys

“Brooks and Goldstein help mothers and fathers focus on their child’s strengths, not on his or her weaknesses. The result is a happier, more resilient child.”
–Michael Thompson, Ph.D., author of i>Raising Cain


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