Being happy is easy when life is going well; but what about when circumstances spin out of control and bad things happen one right after another.
We all have times when we feel that we just can’t get out from under the storm clouds. How do people stay happy during the tough times?
It’s been said time and time again that when the going gets tough the tough get going, but some people don’t find that at all easy to do.
Positive attitudes can help, but knowing that there is a higher power that controls the chess pieces of our lives lets us know that this hard time is only a bump
in the road and will soon pass.
This deep acceptance of faith is called joy; and hard times simply can’t compete with pure joy.
We may not understand why bad things happen to good people, but we know that they do and always will. Bad things happen to bad people too, just as good things happen to good people.
It’s just the way it is. If we can simply understand that we can’t know certain things on this side of life, which will help us get through life here.
Try to look at everything as part of God’s plan and as a positive experience; find joy in the simple pleasures in life and don’t let the circumstances of the day (or week) get you down!
Losing Control Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us And How to Let It Go (Volume 1)
by: Daniel A. Miller
publisher: Ebb and Flow Press, published: 2011-02-01
sales rank: 52635
price: $9.14 (new), $9.94 (used) ForeWord Reviews 2011 Book of the Year Award Finalist!
What Would Your Life Be Like If You Simply Let Go of Control?
At work, they oversee every detail of every project and expect nothing less than perfection from their coworkers.
At home, they obsess over finding the “right” person. Then, they criticize their lover or spouse for doing everything wrong.
As parents, they practice zero tolerance for their children’s preferred study practices, choice of friends, dress choices, and differing life views.
Sound familiar? Everyone knows the type: micromanagers, nitpickers, and domestic despots. Yet, most people fail to recognize the signs of a compulsion to control in themselves–or realize the toll of their behavior on their career, their family, their friendships, and their own happiness.
In Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go (Ebb and Flow Press, 2011) Daniel Miller pinpoints the dangers of excessive control. What’s more, he shows those who feel the pressure to control how to break free and reap unexpected gifts.
Sharing his journey of transformation, Miller reveals what happened when he finally decided to “surrender”: his blinders fell away, new opportunities emerged, and he experienced unprecedented, profound inner peace.
Drawing on psychological insights, spiritual wisdom, and the real-life stories of acknowledged “control freaks,” Losing Control, Finding Serenity guides readers through an honest inventory of their control patterns–whether prodding, cajoling, withdrawing, playing the martyr, or intimidating–down to the roots. As most controllers will discover, their compulsion to control is provoked by deep-seated fear, anxieties, and insecurities, then aggravated by anger and resentments.
Filled with enlightening true stories, Losing Control, Finding Serenity
gives readers the knowledge, the courage, the strategies, and the “decontrol” tools to:
*Identify and overcome the control triggers of fear, anger, and resentment.
*Become a less domineering parent, build a family democracy, and reduce the struggles with children.
*Find and keep the right person by accepting who he or she is rather than trying to change their romantic partner.
*Free your creative flow and process.
*Delegate to and trust coworkers to reap increases in productivity, efficiency, and job satisfaction–and reduce conflict and dissension.
*Learn to be patient and calmly accept “what is,” even when adversity strikes, to enjoy a more fulfilling and serene life.
In a chaotic, unpredictable world that’s frequently beyond anyone’s control, Losing Control, Finding Serenity offers welcome encouragement and validation for going with the flow of life as it is: an ongoing, every changing mystery.
Find out how losing control really means gaining control.